Hold Your Tongue!

Yesterday I was basically told by a certain someone that I do not appreciate my kids enough, that I should only ever be grateful that they are alive and that not one complaint better come out of my mouth. 

My head started spinning when I read the comment and I was all ready to tear them a new one! However, I didn't. This person is grieving and I've been there. I've been the one who is mad at another parent for complaining about how hard parenting is, or how rotten their kids are being that day. I *never* voiced that opinion though because I knew it was wrong. Of course people are allowed to complain every now and again and they still have the ability to appreciate life.

Honestly, parenting is hard! And until you are in the everyday ins and outs of it, you don't have the right to be throwing out harsh claims like that. In case that person forgets, I TOO HAVE LOST A BABY! Six years before they did!

For the record, I wasn't complaining! I was commenting on the fact that it is hard to be that mean mommy disciplinarian sometimes when it would be so easy to just coddle the child all day. I love my children with every fiber of my being and because I love them, I discipline them when they make wrong choices so that they know what the right choice is. That's what a good parent does! Just because I lost Quinne doesn't mean I'm going to let my kids walk all over me and enjoy every second of it. That's not how I roll. 

I'm glad my blog is private now and I can vent like this. I still feel badly that this person is going through so much right now that they feel the need to take it out on someone who can relate to them. I have lost all respect and have learned my lesson about reaching out to people who don't really care.